You have a journal, right?
Well, pull it out.
Go ahead– open it up.
What do you see?
Don’t tell me.
Lots of stuff and more stuff.
Now let me ask you something.
What if you wanted to beef it up – make it better?
What would you do?
Put in things that matter, right?
So you want to create a dynamic and compelling journal for yourself and for the generations to come. Then you need to include certain vital components.
One vital component is Relationship.*
So how do you get relationship into your journal. Here are three examples of how other people have added value to their journals by including information about relationships.
The Queen wrote.
In the first example there is excitement woven throughout the narrative. It is easy to visualize the events of this evening as written by Queen Victoria of England on her Golden Jubilee** of June 22, 1887 at Windsor Castle.
We had a large family dinner … Just as we were beginning dessert, we heard
that the torchlight procession of Eton boys was coming into the Quadrangle,
and off we hurried, as fast as we could, to the Corridor, from whence we could
see it beautifully. They performed all sorts of figures, the band playing
marches etc, and they sang an Eton Boat song, a Jubilee song specially
composed for the occasion … They did it so well and it had a most charming
effect. The Head Master came up, and I thanked him, and sent for the Captain
of the school. They cheered tremendously. Then we all went down to the
Quadrangle, and I said, in as loud a voice as I could, “I thank you very much”,
which elicited more cheering, after which they all marched past and out at the
Just be King.
Of course one way to be pretty sure there will be tons of happy readers of your journal is to be Queen. . . or King. . . or even president. But if you are keeping a journal and you are none of the aforementioned heads of state, then you will do well to heed Queen Victoria’s style and make your relationship reports fairly dance with enthusiasm.
Tie it up.
Another way to insure you have your readers’ attention is to relate your present circumstance to an early event in your life. Not only your reader but you too, will see how people and your relationships with them have changed during your lifetime. Tie what you did and who you knew in the past to who you are and what you do now.
So I was very pleased with myself when I went to Paris and met a boy from California and let him kiss me on Bastille Day. We were up all night, roaming from one boozy street party to another, drunk on our certainty that here was proof positive (in the dawn’s light) that we were not going to be anything at all like our parents when we grew up.
Here’s how we turned out: The boy from California went home and became a lawyer. He got married. I’ve settled down in my Village, still working at entry-level jobs. He has 2 kids. I have 5 cats. He and his family wear matching outfits for their Xmas card pictures. I’ve heard the little girl next door call me “the Cat Lady.” Our 21-year-old selves would hate us.
Pull it all together.
That was how Vivian Swift pulled together her earlier life with the one she was living at the time she wrote that passage. Vivian Swift is the author of When Wanderers Cease to Roam A Traveler’s Journal of Staying Put. If you are a regular to this blog you know I highly recommend her book.
Now let it all out.
The last illustration is to be found in the journal of a teen named Anne.
Mrs. Van Daan thinks I’m stupid because I’m not quite so lacking in intelligence as she is; she thinks I’m forward because she’s even more so; she thinks my dresses are too short, because hers are even shorter. And that is also the reason she thinks I’m knowing, because she is twice as bad about joining in over subjects she knows absolutely nothing about.
Go ahead – cut loose.
There are times when you simply need to say what you think, how you feel about a relationship which is difficult. Tell your side to your journal, allow the pen and paper to relieve you of the frustration or angst housed in your heart. In truth, Anne Frank shows great maturity and restraint in her writing concerning one of her fellow clandestine tenants.
While Anne is free in describing her negative thoughts or adverse ideas about the lady described, she still holds to the polite use of the proper name – Mrs. Van Dann. No nasty name calling here.
Honestly – just be honest.
Being honest about your relationships, be they good or bad, is one way to be sure that your journal is useful to you and captivating to future readers.
*For more about Relationship as a Vital Component worth noting in your journal, check out Session II in our home study How to Create the Accidental Journal Writer. That session includes 9 Vital components we recommend for keeping a rich and full journal – Relationship is one of them.
** Celebration of the Golden Jubilee means that Queen Victoria had been reigning for 50 years at that time. She went on to rule for almost 64 years. Hers was the longest reign in British history.
Call to Action #1 – Practice in your journal or diary writing about various relationships in your life.
Call to Action #2 – Share an example from your own writing in which you have written about Relationship in the comment section below.