A kitchen story
A number of years ago Tonya, my daughter, was given a sound scolding by a neighbor for washing her hands in the kitchen sink. The neighbor had told her to wash her hands and in obedience Tonya went straight to the sink and began washing.
The neighbor was aghast and loudly proclaimed her displeasure, noting that hand washing was only done in the bathroom. Tonya was taken aback and didn’t know what she had done wrong. You see, in our house hand washing takes place in which ever sink happens to be handiest.
Hand washing doesn’t bother us. Yet, when it comes to the kitchen and the bathroom there are other disciplines which have great distinction. We neither eat nor cook in the bathroom. We wouldn’t think of eliminating bodily wastes in the kitchen.
Of course there are some things which cross over. As mentioned, hand washing can take place in either room. Brushing of teeth is normally relegated to the bathroom but under extreme circumstances (like you’re going to be late and your sister won’t remove herself from the bathroom) can migrate to the kitchen.
Even some bathing can take place in the kitchen as you can see from the above photo. But all in all there are some major distinctions between the uses for a bathroom and the uses for a kitchen.
What is private and what isn’t
Different people have different requirements and restrictions concerning the use of the two rooms, but in general we make the distinctions based on what is private and what can be shared.
We not only invite our guests to dinner, we often give them tasks to help complete the meal. Family and friends as well as coworkers and associates are privileged to be a part of our kitchen routine.
On the other hand, we don’t suggest our guests follow us to the bathroom in order to continue a conversation. Bathroom time is private time.
With this information in mind you can begin to see there are some parts of your journal which are kitchenish (meant to be shared and enjoyed with others) and there are some parts which are bathroomish (private and not for the eyes or ears of others.)
Use your journal to enrich your guests’ lives
One of the greatest pleasures in life is sharing a meal with family and friends. Inviting guests to share in your food, your conversation, your joy adds to your personal life enrichment – as well as the life enrichment of your guests. Sharing the kitchenish parts of your journal can do the same thing.
At the same time, keeping your bathroomish writings private just makes sense. Then neither you nor your guests are embarrassed.
Kitchenish journal writings might include:
- Great quotes
- Fun or new ideas
- Something you’ve just learned
- Your plans for vacation
- Poetry or prose meant for sharing
Bathroomish journal writings might include:
- Rants and raves
- Bombastic statements about others
- Conversations with God
- Painful experiences
- Sarcastic or negative thoughts
Just like the difference between whether or not you allow hand washing in the kitchen sink you may disagree with what things are bathroomish and which are kitchenish. My best suggestion is to err on the side of caution concerning what is shareable. But don’t let that stop you from sharing the good stuff.
- Next time you have a gathering with family and friends plan to read aloud some of your kitchenish journal writings.
- If you have friends who you know use a journal ask them to bring their journals along for the “meal.”